Posted by: energywriter | September 11, 2016

Take Care of Yourself First

Thoughts to Ponder – September 11,2016

 “When we let what others are doing or not doing become a part of our

every day life, it is we who are not doing our own life.”

 A Window of Wisdom*

How easy it is to become involved in another person’s drama. We spend hours trying to find a solution for a friend who is dealing with a seemingly unsolvable problem. We should be concerned about our friends. However, we need to find a balance between concern and obsession. Over-thinking anything – elections, football, weather, job, friends, lovers and so on is harmful to our mental, physical, emotional and spiritual bodies.

Being concerned without becoming involved in another’s problem is sometimes difficult, but doable. When someone shares a problem, we can say “I’m sorry you are facing this dilemma. How would you like me to help?” Usually she just wants a willing listener. If she is seeking a solution, we can offer a suggestion or two then remind her that she has to decide what action to take or not. Then we let go of the problem. It is not ours to carry.

We tend to get mired in our own problems. We spend hours, days, or weeks pondering our ability to resolve the issue and how this crisis will affect our future. These valid concerns deserve our attention, but not to the point of supplanting other facets of our lives. Our personal crisis tends to swirl around in our brains at the most inconvenient times. Trying to push it out of our minds is futile.

A better option is to allot a time to concentrate on that issue. Some ways are to read about the subject, talk to a trusted adviser, write a list of possible solutions, or meditate. Even better, do all of them. After evaluating the situation we will probably have a solution or at least a step or two to take that will lead to a resolution. For example, we can decide to take this action and if that works the problem is solved. If not, then we can try step two and see where that leads. Many times the result will not be what we think it should be, but will lead us in a direction with better options.

Spirit,

Thank you for reminding us to place our attention where it belongs and that we can’t resolve anyone’s problems but our own. You’ve given us steps to find solutions and the ability to decide the proper action. We chose to use those options.

And, so it is.

*A Window of Wisdom, September 2, 2016, https://awindowofwiscome.wordpress.com

© by Sharon D. Dillon, September 11, 2016

Sharon D. Dillon, energywriter@cox.net, http://energywriter.me “Laugh your way to peace, love and joy” Author of Echoes of your Choices, 2016, available as an e-book or paperback at Amazon, Barnes and Noble and other online sites.

Chesapeake Bay Writers, Erma Bombeck Writers Workshop, Southern Humorists, National Society of Newspaper Columnists, Voices of Williamsburg Toastmasters Club.

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Responses

  1. Reblogged this on Daniel Wetta and commented:
    Sharon Dillon, author of the book, Echoes of Your Choices, regularly dispenses wisdom using simple, everyday examples. Regardless of religion, race or creed, the human experience is one of common denominators. Sharon cuts through our differences with messages that makes sense. This article is exemplary of the writing’s in Sharon’s book, which is a thematic compilation of essays from this blogsite over a number of years. If you wish to free yourself from the rough tosses of anger, discouragement and fear in everyday life, I recommend Sharon’s book and blogsite as a gentle path to this freedom!

    • I’m in awe of all the fantastic descripters you use for my work.

  2. Good advice and well written. Thanks for sharing your wisdom.

    • Thank you, Sheila. I don’t write anything I don’t need to be reminded.

  3. I love this one Sharon. Touches me at an appropriate time. Love your insights and sound advice!

    • Thank you, Libby. I hope you get through this time easily.

  4. Sharon,
    I think you’re on to something. Few people get to save others, but by being stronger within ourselves, we do by example help others. I’ve read about a third of your book…you’ve done well. dave

    • Thank you, Dave. That means a lot coming from you, an excellent writer.

  5. Good writing, interesting and different for 9/11.

    • Thank you, Linda. I didn’t want to do yet another 9/11 retrospective.


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