Posted by: energywriter | December 2, 2016

Gratitude without platitude

Thoughts to Ponder

 “… When you receive, not only do you affirm your own worthiness

and open the way for more,

but you make possible greater joys for the giver….

*The Universe

So many holidays this time of year can lead to stress or to joy. That choice is entirely up to us. We start the season with Halloween and giving candy to Trick or Treaters. While we’re still eating the leftovers we’re shopping for Thanksgiving. We cook for days and dinner dishes aren’t finished yet when stores begin their Black Friday sales. From then on, preparing for all the winter gift giving opportunities keeps us on our toes, trying to avoid traffic jams at the malls, watching the ads for sales and telling the kids that, “That expensive toy may not be in Santa’s budget this year.”

Each winter we have Hannukah, Winter Solstice, Christmas, Kwanzaa and New Years, all gift giving and receiving opportunities. We go to store after store looking for perfect gifts. Some of us actually started craft projects months ago. Either way we are putting a lot of thought and effort into our gifting opportunities.

We should put just as much effort into our receiving opportunities. This is not to say we should heap flatteries over an unwanted item. But we should recognize that the giver made an effort to find something we’d like and acknowledge that. One example of not receiving graciously is my mother who was taught to be a humble receiver. Humble is good, degrading yourself is not.

No matter what I gave her it was too much and/or too expensive. After years of her denigrating herself as well as my gifts, I said, “Mom, you take all the fun out of giving.” To her question of how, I replied that each birthday and Christmas I tried to find the perfect gift. Each time she said it was too much. Her negative comments made me wonder why I tried so hard to please her. After a moment of silence, she responded, “My friend told me last week that I take the blessing out of giving.” I said, “Your friend is correct. Can you just say thank you and stop there?”

Can we, each of us, offer sincere gratitude for gifts received without extraneous commentary? That is unless the gift is really fantastic. In that situation we can bubble over with complimentary adjectives.

I must admit that bit of wisdom did not originate with me. After years of saying that gifts were “too much” a friend gave me that same talk. Fortunately, I listened to her advice and years later my mom listened to mine.

Spirit: You shower us with gifts every day and we express our gratitude by thanking you for the new day, new opportunities, trees, flowers, grass, birds, animals and more. We know that you freely give those gifts that we can never earn. We express our gratitude by enjoying those gifts. We can we do no less in our personal interactions. And, so it is.

*A Note from the Universe, www.tut.com, December 2, 2016

© by Sharon D. Dillon, December 2, 2016

Sharon D. Dillon, energywriter@cox.net, http://energywriter.me “Laugh your way to peace, love and joy” Author of Echoes of your Choices, 2016, available as a paperback or e-book at Amazon, Barnes and Noble and other online sites.

Chesapeake Bay Writers, Erma Bombeck Writers Workshop, Southern Humorists, National Society of Newspaper Columnists, Voices of Williamsburg Toastmasters Club.

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Responses

  1. After many years of a frantic Christmas, I decided not to “do” Christmas this year. Bought a few gift cards, which took about 10 minutes, no decorations or tree. It is such a relief. I enjoy the lights and decorations of others even more, and am not too worn out to enjoy parties. Christmas Day I am going to iHop with friends for breakfast. I know not everyone can do this, esp. when there are small children, but I don’t miss all the work at all.

    • Sounds wonderful! I got frantic earlier this month, but am pretty well ready for the big day so am now enjoying the season. My daughter carries the burden for hosting our family. We used to trade off until her grands began arriving. She has a slightly larger house and many more toys so she gets the “privilege” full time.

  2. Hi,
    Nominated you for the versatile Blogger Award. Please pass it on if you like:-)

    • Thank you. What does that award mean? Will I get a badge to put on my blog site?

  3. Nice essay. Have a Merry Christmas and Happy New Year. If you believe in prayer, consider keeping Elect Trump in them. But then again, the Donald may think they are not for him, but to him. Oh, never mind. dave

    • We missed you today. Hope you make it to Peter’s house on Jan 12.
      Thank you for your comments. I send out prayers for our (US individual and collective) highest good. I think you are right about “the Donald.” I’m not happy about his cabinet selections. Do you think Congress will approve them or balk?

  4. Nicely written. Great reminder.

    • Thank you, Linda. We all need to remind ourselves from time to time.


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